Even the most experienced of men may make a mistake or two in the
bedroom from time to time and some end up fumbling more times than their
favorite football team. It’s up to you to keep things interesting and
to avoid making sexual errors that irritate women, so if you steer clear
of the following 10 behaviors, you will be headed toward being the kind
of lover that attracts women like magnets and keeps them coming back
for more.
1. Not returning sexual favors
Women often complain about men who gladly accept oral pleasuring, but
never return the favor. Being a selfish lover can be an intimacy killer
because one partner cannot be expected to continually please the other
while not being pleasured themselves. Although you may get incredible
sexual gratification from your lover’s abilities, just remember that she
needs some attention too.
2. Insufficient foreplay
At one time or another, we’ve all experienced a moment so passionate
that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable; however, getting caught
up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out
of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis. The
thing that makes sex incredible for a woman is anticipation and being
sexually teased, and insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act
of sex. Take your time and master the art of foreplay in order to drive
your woman wild.
3. Being silent and emotionless
Women want and NEED strong emotional experiences in bed. Men
generally believe that remaining silent during the sex is a better
option than speaking out what they desire, but if you are not talking
during lovemaking and creating a strong emotional experience for her,
she can’t be totally fulfilled. Something as simple as a little moan, or
even saying something like, “That feels so good,” will encourage her.
4. Assuming she’s satisfied
Concentrating solely on your own sexual gratification is likely to leave
your lover feeling underwhelmed or unsatisfied once you finish. Just
because you got off, that doesn’t mean that she’s satisfied. Remember, a
good lover makes the effort to make sure his partner is satisfied
before he is.
5. Lack of grooming
When you’re in the throes of passion, having your beard stubble brushing
back and forth across her body isn’t so sexy. If there’s one thing that
turns women off, it’s a lover whose personal hygiene isn’t up to par.
Keeping yourself clean and properly groomed- especially in the more
intimate corners of your anatomy – is not just a matter of courtesy,
it’s a ticket back to the bedroom.
6. Not lasting long enough
This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in
the bedroom would be complete without it. You need to have good penile
control to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. If you
can’t control yourself and end up letting go too soon, spend a lot more
time on foreplay. Although it is a debatable topic, most women will be
happy if you can last at least 20 minutes.
7. Ignoring her erogenous zones
Most women have more erogenous areas than simply her breasts, nipples,
and genitals. Take the time to learn your lover’s other “hot” zones,
particularly her neck, shoulders, back, buttocks and feet. Focus on her
entire body. It will turn her on more and, in turn, increase the chances
of her pleasuring you back.
8. Forcing sexual fantasies
Men often commit the mistake of not respecting a woman’s comfort zone,
and simply expect women to do just about everything in bed to please
them. Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new
things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want
her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is impose
your sexual desires and fantasies upon her too soon into the
relationship. Remember–real sex is not like sex in adult films, so
always try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but
surely.
9. Thinking what works for one woman works for them all
Men often make assumptions about what a woman’s wants based upon what
they’ve done with other women; however, there is a great deal of
variation between what different women like in the bedroom as well as
their own differing levels of experience and confidence. If you have
trouble reading your girlfriend’s responses, there is no harm in asking
her directly what she likes. Even if you feel that you do know what will
keep her satisfied in bed, constantly giving her a variety of sexual
experiences is the fastest way to a varied and fulfilling sex-life.
10. Not kissing her enough
Believe it or not, many men don’t kiss the woman they’re with when
they’re having sex — and that’s one of the biggest mistakes to avoid in
bed. Women love being kissed because it makes them feel soft, sexy,
beautiful and adds the romance that they crave.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Mistakes Women Make In Bed.
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